The story so far
Hi, I’m Ben & I’m a Human Potential coach and breathwork healer, who helps others find the magic within themselves to live a more purposeful & fulfilling life. I love to write (book incoming…) and a regular public speaker who is stripping back the conversation to change the stigma about mental health and masculinity.
It wasn’t always this way, in fact I once lived uninspired, driven by other people’s expectations at the cost of my own unique authenticity. Looking back now it’s very clear to me as to why I chose that path; with conformity came the acceptance & validation that gave me a sense of security, I felt safe but I lacked internal inspiration.
What I now know is that external validation doesn’t bring an internal sense of fulfilment. Whilst I was ticking boxes that society deemed successful, the empty feeling I felt on the inside often led me to ask myself, “is there more to life?”. That really summed up how I felt, relatively successful on the outside, but empty on the inside.
Whilst my ego craved acceptance & the safety that came with it, my heart wanted me to show up, to try, to love, to have real & deep connections with like minded people. It wanted me to live in tune with my own deepest values, regardless of what everyone else was doing.
Change started to happen for me when I stopped trying to live to my ego by impressing society, & instead choosing to connect more with my heart to impress myself. But I didn’t lose myself, I just gained more of my authentic self, I’ve learned this is where I am at my most powerful.
It is my belief that we aren’t born to simply conform, or to fit into a system that happens to be right for absolutely everyone. We are individuals with personal values that are unique to who we are, our job to ourselves is to learn what those values are, & how to live in tune with them.
Having been on my own journey, my goal is very clear. Every day I aim to show up authentically to inspire my audience to connect more with who they are at their best; that is, the person their heart craves them to be.